Do you feel your marriage is stuck or stagnant? Here are four strategies that you can use to focus on your marriage and work towards a brighter future.

We’re back after a bit of a break during the summer and are excited to roll out a few things here this fall… to kick it all off we’re sharing about complacency in marriage.

Yikes! It happens to so many of us… was the past the best part and todays marriage status is a little bit off?

When we first got married, we were young and had no idea what unconditional love meant. We spent a good portion of our marriage living in the hamster wheel, as we like to call it. Getting up everyday and going through the motions, but not living and loving intentionally.  Then came career changes, kids and greater responsibilities.

We get it. You’re busy being parents… changing diapers… endless baseball games… it all happens so quickly and soon enough you really have given each other the leftovers and are at a loss for how to love each other.

It really is the heart and soul behind why we created this community, Marriage More.  A place where couples can come together, find positive and easy ways to connect and really make their marriage, more.

Today’s episode is centered around this quote we’ve had top of mind the last few years…

“Always make your future bigger than you past” –  Dan Sullivan

Here’s a few ways we are working to make our marriage future bigger than our past:

Incorporate the Love Habits.

While we love using the Love Habits as three quick ways to connect and catch up, another way we’ve been able to process and build our marriage is just by sharing three wins for the day individually. Seems simple enough, right? It’s all about being intentional to connect physically, verbally and emotionally.

 

Put the past behind you.

No matter how hard it may be, one foot after another, you’ve got to get moving in a new direction.  After you’ve been married for any amount of time there’s going to be moments that it seems perfect to bring back up the past… avoid it!

Allow yourself time to heal from hurts and move forward.

Maybe to help move your marriage forward it’s time to switch up some daily routines- here’s a few we recommend.

 

Create goals for your marriage.

It’s not too late to start making some goals for 2016… there’s still plenty of time to set goals and get after them both individually and as a couple before the year’s over. What are your goals for the next 90 days and for the next three years?

We’ve shared in podcast #53 what some of our latest goals are… tune in here!

 

Close the Marriage Gap™

We all begin marriage with expectations. And when you’re expectations are not met, you are l.e.t. d.o.w.n. in a big way.

Whatever your expectations are whether it’s romance or house chores, we had expectations of each other and at some point they were not met. Cue the marriage gap getting bigger and bigger.

How can you avoid the Marriage Gap™ and live a life with the marriage you envisioned?

We’ve rounded up a few ways to avoid the Marriage Gap™ here.

To have a bigger future in your marriage, you have to have progress. We believe that the smaller you can make the Marriage Gap™ of ideals vs. reality, the better your marriage will be.

 

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The goal of the Marriage More Podcast is to create a community for couples who are striving to be more intentional about their relationship.

We share REAL LIFE marriage with you.

We hope that you enjoy listening to how we do marriage, even though it may be different than how you do marriage.

We’d love for you to leave us a rating and review on iTunes if you enjoy the show! You can do that here.

 

 

LINKS FROM THE PODCAST

Download The Love Habits challenge

Podcast #53 – On the Fly Car Convo About Wins, Goals and Struggles

Podcast #51 and #52 – How to Avoid the Marriage Gap™

Here’s a few routines that we’ve changed in our marriage that have led to us being much closer together.