You might have tuned into the episode of our podcast where we broke down the 5 Love Languages. (If you missed it, tune in here).
Do you know what your spouse’s Love Languages are? We have to admit that we didn’t until we took the online quiz and started exploring how we can practice these 5 ways better in our marriage.
The 5 Love Languages
Let’s start at the beginning.
No shame. We didn’t know what or how the Love Languages could impact our marriage until not too long ago too!
The easiest way for us to define the Love Languages is this: How do you feel loved? What ways makes you feel loved the most? Whatever the answer to those two questions are… those are your love languages.
Some of us feel more loved when we are affirmed through words, others physical touch. We were each made and wired to receive love differently. So often in marriage we each give love the way we receive it best. But instead, we should be giving love the way our spouse receives it best.
Here’s the recap – The Five Love Languages include:
Words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch.
Can you peg yourself into one of these five categories? Many of us know quickly just from hearing what the five categories are what our love language is…
It’s great to have a head knowledge of these ways you can connect with your spouse and show them love the way they understand it best, but it’s got to be more… much more.
Ever heard that little phrase “actions speak louder than words”??… Nothing more could apply here than when we talk love languages. It’s all about actually DOING them.
Whatever yours and your spouses love languages are, we’ve rounded up a few creative ways to show each of the 5 love languages.
Words of affirmation
Check out our Praise Challenge we completed and see how using words creates an impact.
TRY THIS: Whether it’s leaving notes on the bathroom mirror, creating a silly video sharing things you love about your spouse and surprising them with it… there’s so many ways to praise your spouse. The act of verbally affirming them and sharing what you love about them will certainly make them feel loved.
We’ve rounded up a few blogs we published that go overboard on ways to praise your spouse! Gentlemen, there’s not more excuses… here’s 56 ways.
Acts of service
What you do means more than what you say. Mandy loves this one. Whether it’s picking the kids up from school or cleaning up after yourself…. show your love, don’t just say it.
TRY THIS: Take the trash out, make the bed, swap the laundry, find a babysitter for date night, pack the kiddos lunches… the list of acts of service is unending. Really, just examine all the daily thing your spouse does to simply keep life going and jump in on doing them before they get to it.
Love getting flowers delivered? Gifts on every holiday? You feel loved when gifts are received.
TRY THIS: All things Christmas, birthdays, Mother’s Day… any day that can be deemed a holiday to receive a gift is likely marked on the calendar if your spouse’s love language is receiving gifts.
Let me start helping you out in advance of the holidays on the whole “What do I get for my wife??” struggle bus that we all have taken a ride or two on.
Buying gifts for your spouse can be incredibly difficult. For some of you, it may be the whole spending money on useless things obstacle and for others, it’s the whole, if she wanted it, she already went to the store and got it herself dilemma. Get the full step by step- you can’t mess this us- gift guide for your wife HERE.
Whether its watching a movie or having the daily catch me up chat from our Love Habits challenge spending time together that’s undivided attention is key here.
TRY THIS: Plan a date night, drop the kids off at Nana’s house and spend time just the two of you. Often times if your love language is quality time, it’s through spending that quality time together with your spouse that you really recharge and reset from the craziness of life.
Spending time together doesn’t have to cost a ton of money for fancy dinners or trips away. Turn on Netflix, take a walk, check out your local playhouse. There’s tons of ways to spend time together and satisfy that need for quality time.
Want to plan the perfect date to take the quality time thing to a whole new level? Tune into our podcast about doing just that.
Hand holding or happenings behind closed doors, nothing speaks more clearly than an appropriate touch.
TRY THIS: Apparently this is the part of the 5 Love Languages the men start saying a loud “AMEN” to. Ladies, it might not always be easy, but just like you may feel most loved when he tackles some house chores for you (acts of service!) he feels most loved when you spice it up behind closed doors.
What’s your love language? What creative ways have you and your spouse found to meet each others needs